Table of contents and Excerpts from the book:


Preface 1

Note about the Book 5

Ch. 1 What Is Happiness and What It Feels Like 7

Ch. 2 The Forgotten Truth about Happiness 10

Ch. 3 Challenging Wrong Premises 15

Ch. 4 The Purpose of Happiness 20

Ch. 5 Love and Happiness 25

Ch. 6 Tool #1: Differentiating Blame from Responsibility 29

Ch. 7 Tool #2: Witnessing. Unidentifying with Your Body, Your Mind and the Life You Live 34

Ch. 8Tool #3: Labels Are Good Only for Shopping 38

Ch. 9 Tool #4: Keeping the Right Perspective 43

Ch. 10 Tool #5: Gratitude 49

Ch. 11 Tool #6: Away with Guilt 54

Ch.12 Tool #7: Meditation for Those Who Don’t Meditate 62

Ch.13 Tool #8: Living in the Now 67

Ch.14 Simplify Your Life. How to Use the Word No 71

Ch.15 Recognize, Enjoy and Share Your Happiness to Make the World a Better Place 75

Epilogue: There Is a Faster Way to Do It 78

Happiness Unveiled 84

Recommended Reading 108  


                         Chapter 1

What Is Happiness and What It Feels Like

Happiness is not a perpetual state of peaceful and beatific satisfaction. In fact, it would be unnatural and unrealistic to expect a total lack of conflict, pain, or sadness. Happiness is not attainable when you are in denial about feelings, but when you rise above them by understanding, accepting, or transmuting them.

                       Chapter 3

        Challenging Wrong Premises

Wrong Premise Number Two: Happiness Is Something That Happens, But It Does Not Happen to Everyone.

You can take yourself to happiness in the same way in which you can learn how to cook, play guitar, make candles, play football, or drive a car. Like with any other skill, some people seem to be natural at it while others struggle somewhat, but all can learn how to tune in to it. It is simply a question of understanding the basics, having the will to do it, and focusing upon it. With most skills in life, practice makes perfect. Of course, in the process, relapse is normal. All changes require time. Be patient and understanding with yourself until you reach your goal. You are implementing new ways of looking at being and opening the door to new feelings.

Chapter 8

Tool #3: Labels Are Good Only for Shopping

You are accustomed to judging, to label everything as good or bad. A car accident is bad, a job promotion is good. Your spouse cheating on you is bad, winning the lottery is good. Those kind of labels are what we call images and they are ingrained in our mind, but they are not always true. An old Zen story illustrates this fact.


Once there was an old farmer whose horse ran away. The neighbors visited the farmer, feeling sorry for him. When they talked about his bad luck, he simply said, maybe. A few weeks later, the horse came back, bringing along a beautiful mustang. Everybody around the farmer was happy for him. His neighbors were saying how lucky he was. His answer was, perhaps The week after, when the farmer’s son was trying to tame the wild horse, he was severely injured. He had broken his leg and seriously wounded his foot. It took several weeks for him to recover, and, in the end, doctors could not save three of his toes. The boy could never run again. The farmer’s wife was really upset, as were his neighbors. They all commented on how that was indeed bad luck. The farmer’s response was, again, to smile and just say, perhaps.

By now, the farmer’s friends and neighbors were thinking that he was crazy, because they thought it unnatural to show such lack of emotion. It seemed that he did not care about anything, regardless of whether he received good or bad news. Six months later, the villagers understood better. The government had declared war to another country and was recruiting young boys for the army. When officers arrived at the farm, they saw that the boy could not run and decided not to take hi
m. Needless to say, now the farmer’s neighbors thought it was good fortune. Again the father reacted by saying, perhaps. Finally, they understood what he meant.

You can’t possibly know in advance if something is good or bad. Life is complex, and destiny will take you where you need to go. Whether the path is a pleasant walkway or a tortuous labyrinth, will depend mostly on your resistance toward it.

Chapter 11

Tool # 6: Away with Guilt.

You are cleaning your emotional reality in order to facilitate tuning in to happiness. One of the most wildly accepted and most unnecessary pieces of baggage you tend to carry with you is guilt. How can you deal with it in a purposeful and healthy way?

Happiness Unveiled

These are the tools that you have for your life’s Journey.

A GPS, called happiness, so you can tell whether you are lost or on the right path;

A bright light, called love, so you can see the reality of what is in front of you;

An endless amount of currency, called gratitude. The more you use it, the more you will acquire whatever you need for your trip;

A communicating device, called Silence, because only in the silence of your mind will you find the right direction and advice.

A master key, called forgiveness, because only when you forgive yourself and others, will you set yourself free.

As many mirrors as you need along the way, because every situation and every person you find on your path is reflecting one part of yourself.

To carry all, you have a backpack called awareness.

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